How Writing Down My Ideal Vision Changed My Life

There seem to be two answers successful folks have when it comes to the question: “Did you ever expect to have this kind of success?” One answer is something like: “No, this is crazy. I just got lucky. I wanted to do this ______________…
women selling Tupperware 1980s

Who was the first woman to inspire you to be successful?

“Pink Cadillac, cruising down the street…,” Mom would sing and do her signature shimmy, as we drove down the street in her blue Chevy Nova to another Tupperware party in a nearby town. Mom wanted the pink Cadillac—that was the big…
Aretha Franklin's life

Aretha Franklin's Tough Choices
on the Way to Success

I was heartbroken to learn of Aretha Franklin's death yesterday. It was the kind of loss you feel based on some wish that I'd had a chance to get to know her. Like now the (irrational) opportunity was definitely gone. I've always kind of seen…
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How to Deal When Someone You Dislike Wins

Have you ever experienced something like this: Someone you can't stand gets a win. You know them to be a [fraud/asshole/full-of-shit/fake/abusive/condescending/fill-in-the-blank nasty trait] and yet they won an award, or got a big client,…
mental health

First Hand Perspectives: Mental Health Awareness for the Other 11 Months of the Year

Yesterday marked the last day of May and with it the final day of Mental Health Awareness month. And while I'm glad there's a month for it, the reality is that folks struggling with, or affected by mental health issues, or mental illness, or…
Andrea Guevara 5 tips to better year for people going through it

5 Tips to a Better Year

I love a ton of @lewishowes stuff! But this recent “5 Tips to an Amazing Year” Instagram post felt, well, like something geared toward someone who is already well on the path (or has their shit together) and not someone who maybe is struggling…
Step out of line, what it takes

When it's Time to Step Out of Line

The other day I walked into a Starbucks to grab a drink. The line wasn't bad, but the four people in it made an awkward formation parallel, rather than perpendicular to the front door. I thought it was odd that they weren’t queued up toward…
thoughts on being thankful for those who are going through hell

Thoughts on Gratitude for Those Who've Been (or are going) Through Hell

A few years back I stood up in front of my aunts, uncles, cousins, children, parent, grandparent, and extended family at the Thanksgiving table and volunteered to say the dinner prayer. I didn't usually volunteer for something like that.…
What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

What to Do When You Feel Like Nothing is Working

Does this happen to you? You’re doing something new, pursuing a new goal or change and it feels like NOTHING is working. Here are some ways this has shown up for me: I’m pitching or submitting writing all over, but all I hear are crickets…
A strong place inside you

What if There's a Refuge Built Right Inside Every Human Being?

This week I listened to an episode of the On Being podcast that made me reconsider how we humans survive trauma or hardship. Krista Tippett’s interview with poet John O’Donohue was profound. I found myself rewinding and replaying segments…